have i told you that adam's grandma is living with us? in january, doris came to live here again. i don't really know that she wanted to, but she had to. none of us in the house are very happy or excited about it. doris has dementia, so living with her is like living in lockdown in a mental facility. any time we leave our room, we have to lock it and have our key on us...i lost mine about a day after this all started. for the first few weeks we kept the key above the door, but after she tried every key she could find to try to get in our room we decided it wasn't safe to leave our key out anymore. there are times when she is nice and behaves perfectly. then there are times when nothing is right and you can't convince her of anything. it's really hard to understand, and to also try to not be frustrated by her. the person this is hardest for though is jill. she doesn't want to give up on doris and put her in a home, but at the same time can't go on like this until doris' inevitable end. jill has the most contact with her during the day since the rest of us have jobs. jill does everything she can to make her mom comfortable, and to see that she is getting everything she needs. in return doris will say "thank you" once in a while. but she mostly just expects it and then doesnt remember people doing things for her. i guess i just needed to vent a little. i hope things get better.